Description
In order to raise children who are kindhearted, hardworking, responsible and cooperative, parents must make a daily investment of time in their children’s education. They must also be living models of the middos they want their children to display, particularly compassion, patience and self-discipline. Children can only learn good middos by seeing parents react to frustrations and disappointments with calm faith.
Children do not purposely or maliciously make messes, fight over trivialities, lose things, break possessions, get dirty, fail in school or misbehave. Being unskilled and immature, the parents must patiently train them to solve problems calmly and respond rationally when they are bored, frustrated, frightened or overtired. When parents hit, scream and criticize, they create resistance, rebellion and resentment. In contrast, if a child thinks, “I’m kadosh [holy],” he will strive to live up to this positive self-perception and think of himself as a person who can resist temptations and be respectful of others.
How can parents get this message across?
The most simple, effective and powerful technique is called the Victory Method. Instead of focusing on the negative, parents teach children to notice, value and report their “victories, i.e., their acts of self-discipline, courage, patience and kindness. When parents do this from an early age, they instill within the child a deep and abiding sense of himself as a person who can face difficulties with faith – in himself and in Hashem.
Torah Tigers provides examples of how to implement this method.
It can be used in the home and in the school, teaching children to be enthusiastic about their spiritual growth.
More Information
Dimensions 8.5 X 11
ISBN 9781598263084
Illustrator Menahem Halberstadt
Publisher Distributed by Feldheim
Number of pages 48
Binding type Hard Cover
Jewish Book World Magazine –
This picture book of short stories in rhyme is based on Dr. Adahan’s “victory method” which she explains in her introduction. The intended audience is observant Jewish families. The adorable hand drawn and brightly colored illustrations portray a family in which the youngest is dressed as a tiger. Each relative; siblings, parents and grandparents, then must overcome a challenge, be it taking medicine, sitting nicely for the dentist, or having the young “tiger” color in a school notebook. As each relative controls his/her temper or completes the challenge, they are praised. The stories are intended to be read as encouragement for children as they, too, overcome challenges in life. Children can easily relate to the stories and the educational message that Dr. Adahan promotes. Adahan has succeeded in bringing her parenting philosophy to a level that that children can understand. These stories are appropriate for ages 3-8. Drora Arussy
VS Grenier –
TORAH TIGERS is a charming book written by Dr. Miriam Adahan, who is a counseling psychologist. The purpose of this book is to teach children how to make good choices in everyday life situations. Dr. Adahan’s VICTORY METHOD is a great child-rearing tool. This method shifts a parent’s emphasis from criticism to reinforcement. Dr. Adahan even teaches you to record every accomplishment your child has, no matter how small.This book is written in rhyme and accompanied by fun, kid-friendly illustrations. My favorite part of the illustrations is looking for the little red bird that’s in almost every illustration to see what he’s doing.This is a wonderful book that features great examples for children (and parents) to learn from. I give it a high-five for the great rhyming prose in a learning-lesson format and truly fun illustrations. This book is a keeper!