Description
So many books about parenting. Finally – a book about our parents.
Everyone knows the importance of kibud av va’eim. Honoring parents is one of the Ten Commandments, something that every Jewish child learns in school.
And then we grow up. Of course, we still want to be good sons and daughters. And yet, do we really understand how to fulfill this never-ending mitzvah — as adults?
Do we know how the Torah expects us, grownup children, to treat our parents? What about stepparents or in-laws? What are our financial obligations? How do we balance our own needs, and the needs of our family, with those of our parents? What happens when our parents divorce? Or if a parent has a difficult or abusive personality? Do we have to love our parents?
Rebbetzin Yehudis Samet, veteran educator and author of the classic The Other Side of the Story, brings us a book that is a game-changer; or, rather, a life-changer. It’s a tour-de-force that includes:
- More than 170 stories of sons and daughters – of all ages – rising to the challenge of kibud av v’eim
- Strategies and common sense advice on dealing with the sensitive issues of “the sunset years”
- Comprehensive and clear halachos of kibud av v’eim
My Father, My Mother and Me is a must-read book for everyone. Because everyone is someone’s child.
By Rabbi Yehuda Samet (Contribution by) Yehudis Samet (Author)
ISBN # : 9781422614549
Format : Hardcover
Pages : 536
Butterfly –
When somebody showed me the final chapter of this book, I was intrigued by its title: It’s Not Over When It’s Over. I sat down, and – unable to put it down – I read every word. I learned that there is a principle in the Talmud: A child can elevate the level of his parent’s soul which is already in the next world by his actions in this world. Since our parents are responsible for our existence, and since it was they who taught us to walk and talk and so much more, our deeds in this world accrue to their merit. The multiple suggestions in this chapter for how one can this “honor” and help parents after their death, have turned my days in a whole new direction. The most moving aspect of this for me is saying the words “avi mori” and “immi morasi” – meaning – “my father-my teacher,” and “my mother – my teacher” when I give charity for the elevation of their souls. It focuses my thoughts on the vast fields of knowledge and the myriad skills which I can clearly see that I learned from each of them. Even just thinking of one or two of those things each morning….what a way to start the day!
Antonio DeRivera –
If you value obedience to the Torah when it says to “honor thy father and thy mother, so that it will go well with you…” (Deut 5:16), then I highly recommend to you readers of my comment, this book is a “Must Buy” if you are wanting things to go well with you. As I write this, I’m not even half way through the book and The Almighty is showing me how things can be well, NO MATTER WHAT has happened in your past. You will not regret having purchased this book and learn to honor your parent the way the Torah would have you do it.
Paula Z. –
Even though my parents are both gone, I found–and am continuing to find–plenty in this book to help me grow. It is interesting and it has made me thoughtful about what I could do to honor my parents for what they gave me, instead of complaining about whatever, and I have taken action with charitable projects in their memory. This is beyond valuable to me!
Rachelly –
So far amazing book. Apparently, lots of people are awed by this book and it has changed their lives for the better. A friend strongly suggested I buy it.
Manuniked –
Great real life examples
chaya Rivka carasso –
Superb book every one, Jewish or not, should read.
RivF –
A life-changing book for every person. The same topic, of Kibud Av V’Eim, that we’ve all learned over and over again was presented in an incredibly clear style. The stories woven throughout the book will help improve parent/child relationships and may even repair/rebuild broken ones. The sincerity of the author shines through every word. I could not put the book down.